friends

I write this with experience from friends and loved ones. Remember the day you came into this life and everybody celebrated you. Remember how people brought in their gifts and showered you with love and wished the best for you.How people you did not know came to place to say what a beautiful person you are and thought you were to grow up perfectly.

Each birthday that came your way was a day to reckon with and a day to stand up for you with gifts. these were the people you called friends. others you called loved relatives and you felt the warmth they brought to your life thinking that this world was the best.
In fact there came a time you thought everybody was your fan and that they wished for the very best for you.

Interestingly, while growing up you came to realize that you were somewhat inclined to some people and not necessarily others. This feeling brought about a want to have a best friend and friends whom you can count on. In my life i have had several friends all of whom i have associated with at various levels and ways including education, and life walks. Sitting down however I simply cannot remember how some friendships just died away, while others just left and slipped away. But does that mean that I or they were the problem. maybe not. The issues that you share with friends are the aspects that you receive that make or break any form of relation. I of course have a number of friendships that have broken out to the worst but the question is whether or not I have tried to reach out to them. The answer is yes I have tried but some are to no avail. Does this mean that this is or was the end for them?Maybe yes. some people come into our lives to enable our destiny in life. things change with time but its not our fault, only that the part of the destiny they had carried for us fades away. The realization of this has made me learn to let go. A look at friendships in the bible, i would probably refer to One of the greatest biblical examples of friendship is David and Jonathan, son of King Saul. Jonathan’s loyalty to his friend, David, exceeded that to his own father or his own ambitions (1 Samuel 18:1-4, 20:14-17). So attached was David to his loyal friend that after Jonathan’s death, he wrote a song to him, a tribute filled with heart-wrenching pathos (2 Samuel 1:30-32). Theirs was a friendship closer than brotherhood.


Friendship can also have its negative aspects. Some friends can lead us into sin, as when Jonadab persuades Amnon to rape his half-sister, Tamar (2 Samuel 13:1-6). A friend can lead us astray in regard to our faith, as they sometimes did in Israel, leading others to worship false gods (Deuteronomy 13:6-11). In those days, such an act was punishable by death. Even if our friends do not lead us astray, they can provide false comfort and bad advice, as Job’s friends did, making his suffering worse and displeasing the Lord (Job 2:11-13, 6:14-27, 42:7-9). Friends can also prove false, pretending affection for their own motives and deserting us when our friendship no longer benefits them (Psalm 55:12-14; Proverbs 19:4, 6-7). Friendship can be broken down through gossip (Proverbs 16:28) or grudges (Proverbs 17:9). Friends should be chosen very carefully because, as Paul told the Corinthians, “bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33).


away from the bible, whenever you associate yourself with another as you call each other friend, what exactly do you really mean? Do you mean I can be a friend only by my terms? Or is it I will be your friend as long as you do this for me? Or if something comes between us we cannot resolve it and I will just delete you immediately?Or is it that when life is good is when i can be your friend?Or you know we are friends now so i can reach the goal i wish for then from then we cannot survive this relation? which is your pick?
everyday we meet people whom we make a choice of relating to them..funny how life has a sense of humor, check whenever you fall out with a friend, time heals it no matter how long...this is coz issues in life are just vanity of vanities... Question is, are you ready to let go off the vanities and include yourself in relating with others without letting issues come along to break you...I wont say am perfect coz yes I have fallen out and let issues come between my friendships without looking back...But av realized you have to rise above situations and step down to the level of making back the relationships of your friends.....So are you ready to have friends without fearing issues surrounding us?

nduta
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