sex?

the mention of this subject raises eyebrows all over the world with extra shyness that is quite incongrous to everyone. the question is how long can you quite avoid it and how long can you imagine it is a subject of the married or rather the populace who are active sexually? i think ther is more than meets the eye.
this subject is thus different from the way the lord meant it to be read along these very vital aspects of sex the christian way:

1. Sex is God-given. Satan cannot offer anything in this realm
other than distortion and emptiness. Sex was created by God
to allow a husband and wife to express oneness through
intimate and exclusive love. Our Creator designed sex to be
pleasurable. Read Song of Solomon 4:1–16.


2. God created sex to be both a physical and a spiritual bond.
He made two people out of one, and the two are not complete
until they become one again through the sexual union
within marriage.


And Adam said: “This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined
to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both
naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
—Genesis 2:23–24

3. God created sex to have purposeful boundaries. Anything
outside of this total and exclusive covenant between husband
and wife is destructive.
. . . “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and
be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So
then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has
joined together, let not man separate.
—Matthew 19:5–6

4. The God-given purposes for sexual intimacy are these:

a. Unity—“Man shall . . . be joined to his wife” (Gen. 2:24).

b. Comfort—“Isaac . . . took Rebekah and she became his
wife, and he loved her. So Isaac was comforted after his
mother’s death” (Gen. 24:67).

c. Procreation—“Then God blessed them, and God said to
them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply’” (Gen. 1:28).

d. A defense against temptation—“Nevertheless, because
of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife,
and let each woman have her own husband. . . . Do not
deprive one another except with consent for a time . . . so
that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of
self-control” (1 Cor. 7:2, 5).

A husband is commanded to find satisfaction (Prov.
5:19) and joy (Eccles. 9:9) with his wife and to concern
himself with meeting her unique needs (Deut. 24:5; 1 Pet.
3:7).

A wife is responsible for availability (1 Cor. 7:3–5),
preparation and planning (Song of Sol. 4:9), interest
(Song of Sol. 4:16; 5:2), and sensitivity to her husband’s
needs (Gen. 24:67).

so think about it and ponder to reveal the atmosphere within which you wish to lie upon

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Temperaments

ever wondered why a person acts the way they do at the time they do it?ever wondered why couples do not rhyme in their life and always in wrangles?different personalities rhyme differently in their way of life...pairing up people of same personalities can be difficult and draining so read on and know exactly what to do

TO TAKE THE TEST Listed below, you will see that there are 20 rows of 4 selections for "personality strengths" and "personality weaknesses". In each row you must select the one characteristic that describes YOU the best. Be as honest as you can. If you believe that none of the 4 selections describes you, pick the characteristic that comes closest to describing you. Don't leave out any item for any group of 4! When you are finished with the 40 selections (20 strengths and 20 weaknesses), go over your results on the result page listed below. Remember that no answer is better or worse than any other and no personality type is better or worse than any other personality type. This will simply define your personality tendencies. Most people's profile will contain a combination of the personality types. Have fun with the results!

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Now let's get down to the basics. The book describes four different personality types. According to the author, everyone is a combination of the four, but there are usually one or two dominant types that define how each one of us behaves.

The Four Personality Types in the book are:

Choleric: This is the dominant, strong, decisive, stubborn and even arrogant type of person. They tend to be good leaders because they are driven to get things done, however they might offend some people along the way. Cholerics are also known as the "POWEFUL" type. Some famous examples are Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Phil, Phil Donahue, Donald Trump, Bill Gates and Bill O'Reilly.

Melancholy: This is the mental-type. Their typical behaviour involves thinking, assessing, making lists, evaluating the positives and negatives, and general analysis of facts. They love maps, charts and graphs. They are usually the most intelligent of the four types, however they tend to dwell on details. A Melancholy is a planner, making sure things happen, although sometimes they can paralyze themselves with over-analysis. Lists and "doing things the right way" are characteristics of this personality type. Melancholies are also known as the "Perfect" type. Some famous examples are Hillary Clinton, Ernest Hemingway, Vincent Van Gogh and Beethoven.

Sanguine: This is the social-type. They enjoy fun, socializing, chatting, telling stories - and are fond of promising the world, because that's the friendly thing to do. A Sanguine gets on well with people and can get others excited about issues, but cannot always be relied upon to get things done. They love interacting with others and play the role of the entertainer or center of attention in group interactions. They have a tendency to over-promise and under-deliver. Sanguines are also known as the "Popular" type. Some famous examples are Bill Clinton, Robin Williams, Kelly Ripa and Richard Simmons.

Phlegmatic: This is the flat-type. They are easy going, laid back, nonchalant, unexcitable and relaxed. Desiring a quiet and peaceful environment above all else. They tend not to actively upset people, but their indifference may frustrate people. They try not to make decisions, and generally go for the status quo. They are good as mediators because they don't usually have many enemies. They also have a "dry" and quick sense of humor. Phlegmatics are also known as the "Peaceful" type. Some famous examples are Calvin Coolidge, Tim Duncan, Sandy Koufax, and Keanu Reeves.

None of these types is specifically described as being positive or negative. They each have upsides and downsides. The book makes it clear that the characteristics are for observing and identifying, rather than judging.

To summarize:

a Choleric likes it "my way", a Melancholy likes it "the right way", a Sanguine likes it "the fun way", and a Phlegmatic likes it "any way".

Ever since reading "Personality Plus" 15 years ago, I have found that it has helped me understand realtionships of people that are close to me as well as friendships, both short and long term. I highly recommend the book as an aide in making these relationships more meaningful and understandable to you. The "Personality Plus" test is one of many Free Personality Tests that are available to the public.

P E R S O N A L I T Y......P L U S......T E S T.... (PART 1)

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Mark One word in each row that best describes you.

Total Each of the 4 Columns

___Animated........___Adventurous.....___Analytical......___Adaptable

___Playful............___Persuasive........___Persistent.......___Peaceful

___Sociable.........___Strong willed.....___Self-sacrificing..___Submissive

___Convincing.....___Competitive.......___Considerate....___Controlled

___Refreshing.....___Resourceful...___Respectful........___Reserved

___Spirited..........___Self-reliant.....___Sensitive........___Satisfied

___Promoter........___Positive.........___Planner............___Patient

___Optimistic.......___Outspoken.....___Scheduled.......___Shy

___Spontaneous..___Sure..............___Orderly............___Obliging

___Funny.............___Forceful.........___Faithful............___Friendly

___Delightful.........___Daring...........___Detailed...........___Diplomatic

___Cheerful..........___Confident.......___Cultured...........___Consistent

___Inspiring..........___Independent....___Idealist............___Inoffensive

___Demonstrative.___Decisive..........___Deep...............___Dry Humor

___Mixes Easily.....___Mover.............___Musical............___Mediator

___Talker..............___Tenacious......___Thoughtful........___Tolerant

___Lively...............___Leader............___Loyal................___Listener

___Cute.................___Chief..............___Chart-maker......___Contented

___Popular............___Productive......___Perfectionist......___Permissive

___Bouncy.............___Bold................___Behaved............___Balanced

P E R S O N A L I T Y......P L U S......T E S T.... (PART 2)

--------------W E A K N E S S E S -------------------

Mark One word in each row that best describes you.

Total Each of the 4 Columns

___Brassy............___Bossy................___Bashful............___Blank

___Undisciplined..___Unsympathetric..___Unforgiving.....___Unenthusiastic

___Repetitious.....___Resistant........___Resentful............___Reticent

___Forgetful........___Frank...............___Fussy.................___Fearful

___Interrupts.......___Impatient..........___Insecure.............___Indecisive

___Unpredictable.___Unaffectionate.___Unpopular..........___Uninvolved

___Haphazard......___Headstrong......___Hard to Please....___Hesitant

___Permissive.......___Proud..............___Pessimistic..........___Plain

___Angered Easily.___Argumentative.___Alienated............___Aimless

___Naive................___Nervy...............___Negative Attitude.___Nonchalant

___Wants Credit.....___Workaholic......___Withdrawn...........___Worrier

___Talkative............___Tactless.........___Too Sensitive.......___Timid

___Disorganized......___Domineering...___Depressed...........___Doubtful

___Inconsistent........___Intolerant........___Introvert...............___Indifferent

___Messy.................___Manipulative...___Moody.................___Mumbles

___Show-Off.............___Stubborn........___Skeptical..............___Slow

___Loud....................___Lord Over Others.___Loner.............___Lazy

___Scatterbrained.....___Short-tempered....___Suspicious......___Sluggish

___Restless...............___Rash....................___Revengeful......___Reluctant

___Changeable..........___Crafty..................___Critical..............___Compromising

Which Personality Are You?

P E R S O N A L I T Y.... P L U S ....T E S T.... R E S U L T S

Hopefully you have now completed the selection of 1 item from each of the 20 rows for "Strengths" and "Weaknesses" on the test. Here is how you grade yourself. Count the check marks for each of the 4 columns for both tests. Next, total them. You should have 4 numerical results, one for each column. The grand total should be 40 check marks, 20 for each of the 2 tests above.

Column 1 represents the Sanguine personality

Column 2 represents the Choleric personality

Column 3 represents the Melancholy personality

Column 4 represents the Phlegmatic personality

For example: you might have the following results:

Column 1 - 18

Column 2 - 12

Column 3 - 6

Column 4 - 4

This means that your tendencies lean towards a Sanguine, Choleric personality.

REMEMBER - There is Not a Failing or Passing Grade. No Personality Type is Better or Worse than Another. This merely describes your personality tendencies.

Here, are some more characteristics of the 4 types.

SANGUINE

The Extrovert The Talker The Optimist

SANGUINE STRENGTHS

THE SANGUINE EMOTIONS

Appealing personality Talkative, storyteller Life of the party Good sense of humor Memory of color Physically holds on to listener Emotional and demonstrative Enthusiastic and expressive Cheerful and bubbling over Curious Good on stage Wide-eyed and innocent Lives in the present Changeable disposition Sincere at heart Always a child

THE SANGUINE AT WORK

Volunteers for jobs Thinks up new activities Looks great on the surface Creative and colorful Has energy and enthusiasm Start in a flashy way Inspires other to join Charms other to work

THE SANGUINE AS A PARENT

Makes home fun Is liked by children's friends Turns disaster into humor Is the circus master

THE SANGUINE AS A FRIEND

Makes friends easily Loves people Thrives on compliments Seems exciting Envied by others Doesn't hold grudges Apologizes quickly Prevents dull moments Likes spontaneous activities

SANGUINE WEAKNESSES

THE SANGUINE EMOTIONS

Compulsive talker Exaggerates and elaborates Dwells on trivia Can't remember names Scares other off Too happy for some Has restless energy Egotistical Blusters and complains Naïve, gets taken in Has loud voice and laugh Controlled by circumstances Gets angry easily Seems phony to some Never grows up

THE SANGUINE AT WORK

Would rather talk Forgets obligations Doesn't follow through Confidence fades fast Undisciplined Priorities out of order Decides by feelings Easily distracted Wastes time talking

THE SANGUINE AS A PARENT

Keeps home in a frenzy Forgets children's appointments Disorganized Doesn't listen to the whole story

THE SANGUINE AS A FRIEND

Hates to be alone Needs to be center stage Wants to be popular Looks for credit Dominates conversations Interrupts and doesn't listen Answers for others Fickle and forgetful Makes excuses Repeats stories

CHOLERIC

The Extrovert The Doer The Optimist

CHOLERIC STRENGTHS

THE CHOLERIC'S EMOTIONS

Born leader Dynamic and active Compulsive need for change Must correct wrongs Strong-willed and decisive Unemotional Not easily discouraged Independent and self-sufficient Exudes confidence Can run anything

THE CHOLERIC AT WORK

Goal oriented Sees the whole picture Organizes well Seeks practical solutions Moves quickly to action Delegates work Insists on production Makes the goal Stimulates activity Thrives on opposition

THE CHOLERIC AS A PARENT

Exerts sound leadership Establishes goals Motivates family to action Knows the right answer Organizes household

THE CHOLERIC AS A FRIEND

Has little need for friends Will work for group activity Will lead and organize Is usually right Excels in emergencies

CHOLERIC WEAKNESSES

THE CHOLERIC'S EMOTIONS

Bossy Impatient Quick-tempered Can't relax Too impetuous Enjoys controversy and arguments Won't give up when losing Comes on too strong Inflexible Is not complimentary Dislikes tears and emotions Is unsympathetic

THE CHOLERIC AT WORK

Little tolerance for mistakes Doesn't analyze details Bored by trivia May make rash decisions May be rude or tactless Manipulates people Demanding of others End justifies the means Work may become his god Demands loyalty in the ranks

THE CHOLERIC AS A PARENT

Tend to overdominate Too busy for family Gives answers too quickly Impatient with poor performance Won't let children relax May send them into depression

THE CHOLERIC AS A FRIEND

Tend to use people Dominates others Decides for others Knows everything Can do everything better Is too independent Possessive of friends and mate Can't say, "I'm sorry" May be right, but unpopular

MELANCHOLY

The Introvert The Thinker The Pessimist

MELANCHOLY STRENGTHS

THE MELANCHOLY'S EMOTIONS

Deep and thoughtful Analytical Serious and purposeful Genius prone Talented and creative Artistic or musical Philosophical and poetic Appreciative of beauty Sensitive to others Self-sacrificing Conscientious Idealistic

THE MELANCHOLY AT WORK

Schedule oriented Perfectionist, high standards Detail conscious Persistent and though Orderly and organized Neat and tidy Economical Sees the problems Finds creative solutions Needs to finish what he starts Likes charts, graphs, figures, lists

THE MELANCHOLY AS A PARENT

Sets high standards Wants everything done right Keeps home in good order Picks up after children Sacrifices own will for others Encourages scholarship and talent

THE MELANCHOLY AS A FRIEND

Makes friends cautiously Content to stay in background Avoids causing attention Faithful and devoted Will listen to complaints Can solve other's problems Deep concern for other people Moved to tears with compassion Seeks ideal mate

MELANCHOLY WEAKNESSES

THE MELANCHOLY'S EMOTIONS

Remembers the negatives Moody and depressed Enjoys being hurt Has false humility Off in another world Low self-image Has selective hearing Self-centered Too introspective Guilt feelings Persecution complex Tends to hypochondria

THE MELANCHOLY AT WORK

Not people oriented Depressed over imperfections Chooses difficult work Hesitant to start programs Spends too much time planning Prefers analysis to work Self-deprecating Hard to please Standards often too high Deep need for approval

THE MELANCHOLY AS A PARENT

Puts goals beyond reach May discourage children May be too meticulous Becomes martyr Sulks over disagreements Puts guilt upon children.

THE MELANCHOLY AS A FRIEND

Lives through others Insecure socially Withdrawn and remote Critical of others Holds back affection Dislikes those in opposition Suspicious of people Antagonistic and vengeful Unforgiving Full of contradictions Skeptical of compliments

PHLEGMATIC

The Introvert The Watcher The Pessimist

PHLEGMATIC STRENGTHS

THE PHLEGMATIC'S EMOTIONS

Low-key personality Easygoing and relaxed Calm, cool, and collected Patient, well balanced Consistent life Quiet but witty Sympathetic and kind Keeps emotions hidden Happily reconciled to life All-purpose person

THE PHLEGMATIC AT WORK

Competent and steady Peaceful and agreeable Has administrative ability Mediates problems Avoids conflicts Good under pressure Finds the easy way

THE PHLEGMATIC AS A PARENT

Makes a good parent Takes time for the children Is not in a hurry Can take the good with the bad Doesn't get upset easily

THE PHLEGMATIC AS A FRIEND

Easy to get along with Pleasant and enjoyable Inoffensive Good listener Dry sense of humor Enjoys watching people Has many friends Has compassion and concerns

PHLEGMATIC WEAKNESSES

THE PHLEGMATIC'S EMOTIONS

Unenthusiastic Fearful and worried Indecisive Avoids responsibility Quiet will of iron Selfish Too shy and reticent Too compromising Self-righteous

THE PHLEGMATIC AT WORK

Not goal oriented Lacks self-motivation Hard to get moving Resents being pushed Lazy and careless Discourages other Would rather watch

THE PHLEGMATIC AS A PARENT

Lax on discipline Doesn't organize home Takes life too easy

THE PHLEGMATIC AS A FRIEND

Dampens enthusiasm Stays uninvolved Is not exciting Indifferent to plans Judges other Sarcastic and teasing Resists change

there you have it.....comment for further questions.......and directions

xoxo..ndutaniceness

am I in Love?

Did you ever realize that every thing we do as human beings all revolves around love?Did you ever stop for a minute and recount footsteps and think of how much love means in reality? well defining it is one of the most difficult things to do yet feeling it reverberates emotions of which source we are not even aware of. I will not seem to be the superior one here talking about love as if i am all too aware but how about a test to be aware whether you are in love with your partner or not.... here is it take this quiz and be very honest,remember am not playing doctor love but am like you seeking to know answers......

Q: Does your love interest make you feel good about yourself, who you are inside, and the things you do?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure

Q: Does your love interest accept you for who you are, flaws and all, and make you feel loved just the same?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure

Q: Does your love interest ask you to change something about yourself because it goes against his interest, religious beliefs or social status?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure

Q: If your answer to the previous question was 'YES', do you actually make the changes asked of you?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure
Not Applicable - I did not answer YES to the last question

Q: Does your love interest support you in the things that are important to you?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure

Q: In your relationship, which one of you makes the most sacrifices for the other?

S/he does.
I do.
Neither one of us makes sacrifices.
We both make them equally.
It doesn't come up very often, but when it does I make the sacrifices.
It doesn't come up very often, but when it does s/he makes the sacrifices.
It doesn't come up very often, but when it does we take turns making the sacrifices.

Q: Has your love interest ever given you an ultimatum in order to get you to do something you did not want to do, something that would harm you, another person, or is just plain mean?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure

Q: Has your love interest ever pressured you to have sex?

Yes
No
Sometimes
Not Sure

well the answers to the questions maybe varied but one thing is for sure this test gives a brief recount of whether it is love or lust you are in....One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust?

eens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

xoxo ndutaniceness

wedding gown from the website www.infinitebridals.co.ke

Often enough most of the brides seeking to look gorgeous during their weddings usually aim at the latest gowns for a memorable day. The gowns they get are quite interesting but the worst bit is they are left with debts to clear out the price of their gowns.But think about it did you ever think of renting a gown for your wedding or even advising a friend to rent out one? Here in kenya there are people who ensure that the rental gowns are as awesome as the gowns for sale. One of such ventures created are by one owner of the website www.infinitebridals.co.ke- Rael Osolo. Hers is a story of wishing to ease up the hustle and bustle for wedding gowns. Her creative eye for the best quality in the wedding industry helps brides to get their gowns and accessories in an instance. It is after doing so many weddings that she thought how it would be easy to avail gowns that are awesome and yet rent them out at a very affordable rates. Hers is a story of success and beauty within which she seeks to fulfill the dreams of many with affordable costs. You can visit this online both rental and cash shop and get to choose your wedding gown alongside the accessories to match. Again the website is www.infinite bridals.co.ke for more and more details.Here are some of the gowns on the site.

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The haute couture.....

the haute couture is probably one of the most unexplored areas of fashion in kenya... the reason being that the individuals do not probably understand the dynamics of this design. to shine some light on this trend. here are some few words.....

The term "haute couture" is French. Haute means "high" or "elegant." Couture literally means "sewing," but has come to indicate the business of designing, creating, and selling custom-made, high fashion women's clothes

It originally referred to Englishman Charles Frederick Worth's work, produced in Paris in the mid-nineteenth century. In modern France, haute couture is a "protected name" that can be used only by firms that meet certain well-defined standards. However, the term is also used loosely to describe all high-fashion custom-fitted clothing, whether it is produced in Paris or in other fashion capitals such as Milan, London, New York and Tokyo.

The term can refer to:

• the fashion houses or fashion designers that create exclusive and often trend-setting fashions
• the fashions created

kenya is however not endowed in the haute couture look and has vcery few designers who try to continue this trend. However some of these designs can be as follows:

















do you know of a designer who can pull this out in kenya? If you do please comment below

THE HUNGER IN KENYA

every time you speak about hunger in kenya you get to wonder when this debate will ever end. The thought of an underlying way that can alleviate hunger in these areas of Asal areas is almost impossible. clearly as a nutritionist i wish to shed some light on this factor enabling us to understand what exactly is the problem. usually malnutrition usually is tenable to strike the vulnerable populations of the women children the elderly and the convalescents.

The need for prioritizing good nutrition is clear: just because families have food does not mean that they are getting the nutrients they need to keep them healthy. In the global health community, this reality is adverse and reverberates to many customs and cultures. In Kenya, malnutrition persists among children even in the country’s food secure Western Province. Although access to food has not been considered a problem compared with other areas in the country, a recent assessment conducted by the IYCN Project revealed that many kids do not get the right kinds of foods frequently enough to ensure good nutrition—leaving them vulnerable to malnutrition and more prone to illnesses. In order to effectively reduce hunger and malnutrition, food security programs should include proven, low-cost nutrition interventions such as counseling to improve infant feeding practices. This is not a problem of the government,it is a concern that is a continous process due to gaps and voids in the private sector that trickles down to the local individuals at large so get the drift consult a nutritionist and have a good gateway to argue out!