Tuesday, 13 September 2011
friends
I write this with experience from friends and loved ones. Remember the day you came into this life and everybody celebrated you. Remember how people brought in their gifts and showered you with love and wished the best for you.How people you did not know came to place to say what a beautiful person you are and thought you were to grow up perfectly.
Each birthday that came your way was a day to reckon with and a day to stand up for you with gifts. these were the people you called friends. others you called loved relatives and you felt the warmth they brought to your life thinking that this world was the best.
In fact there came a time you thought everybody was your fan and that they wished for the very best for you.
Interestingly, while growing up you came to realize that you were somewhat inclined to some people and not necessarily others. This feeling brought about a want to have a best friend and friends whom you can count on. In my life i have had several friends all of whom i have associated with at various levels and ways including education, and life walks. Sitting down however I simply cannot remember how some friendships just died away, while others just left and slipped away. But does that mean that I or they were the problem. maybe not. The issues that you share with friends are the aspects that you receive that make or break any form of relation. I of course have a number of friendships that have broken out to the worst but the question is whether or not I have tried to reach out to them. The answer is yes I have tried but some are to no avail. Does this mean that this is or was the end for them?Maybe yes. some people come into our lives to enable our destiny in life. things change with time but its not our fault, only that the part of the destiny they had carried for us fades away. The realization of this has made me learn to let go. A look at friendships in the bible, i would probably refer to One of the greatest biblical examples of friendship is David and Jonathan, son of King Saul. Jonathan’s loyalty to his friend, David, exceeded that to his own father or his own ambitions (1 Samuel 18:1-4, 20:14-17). So attached was David to his loyal friend that after Jonathan’s death, he wrote a song to him, a tribute filled with heart-wrenching pathos (2 Samuel 1:30-32). Theirs was a friendship closer than brotherhood.
Friendship can also have its negative aspects. Some friends can lead us into sin, as when Jonadab persuades Amnon to rape his half-sister, Tamar (2 Samuel 13:1-6). A friend can lead us astray in regard to our faith, as they sometimes did in Israel, leading others to worship false gods (Deuteronomy 13:6-11). In those days, such an act was punishable by death. Even if our friends do not lead us astray, they can provide false comfort and bad advice, as Job’s friends did, making his suffering worse and displeasing the Lord (Job 2:11-13, 6:14-27, 42:7-9). Friends can also prove false, pretending affection for their own motives and deserting us when our friendship no longer benefits them (Psalm 55:12-14; Proverbs 19:4, 6-7). Friendship can be broken down through gossip (Proverbs 16:28) or grudges (Proverbs 17:9). Friends should be chosen very carefully because, as Paul told the Corinthians, “bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
away from the bible, whenever you associate yourself with another as you call each other friend, what exactly do you really mean? Do you mean I can be a friend only by my terms? Or is it I will be your friend as long as you do this for me? Or if something comes between us we cannot resolve it and I will just delete you immediately?Or is it that when life is good is when i can be your friend?Or you know we are friends now so i can reach the goal i wish for then from then we cannot survive this relation? which is your pick?
everyday we meet people whom we make a choice of relating to them..funny how life has a sense of humor, check whenever you fall out with a friend, time heals it no matter how long...this is coz issues in life are just vanity of vanities... Question is, are you ready to let go off the vanities and include yourself in relating with others without letting issues come along to break you...I wont say am perfect coz yes I have fallen out and let issues come between my friendships without looking back...But av realized you have to rise above situations and step down to the level of making back the relationships of your friends.....So are you ready to have friends without fearing issues surrounding us?
nduta
xxx
Each birthday that came your way was a day to reckon with and a day to stand up for you with gifts. these were the people you called friends. others you called loved relatives and you felt the warmth they brought to your life thinking that this world was the best.
In fact there came a time you thought everybody was your fan and that they wished for the very best for you.
Interestingly, while growing up you came to realize that you were somewhat inclined to some people and not necessarily others. This feeling brought about a want to have a best friend and friends whom you can count on. In my life i have had several friends all of whom i have associated with at various levels and ways including education, and life walks. Sitting down however I simply cannot remember how some friendships just died away, while others just left and slipped away. But does that mean that I or they were the problem. maybe not. The issues that you share with friends are the aspects that you receive that make or break any form of relation. I of course have a number of friendships that have broken out to the worst but the question is whether or not I have tried to reach out to them. The answer is yes I have tried but some are to no avail. Does this mean that this is or was the end for them?Maybe yes. some people come into our lives to enable our destiny in life. things change with time but its not our fault, only that the part of the destiny they had carried for us fades away. The realization of this has made me learn to let go. A look at friendships in the bible, i would probably refer to One of the greatest biblical examples of friendship is David and Jonathan, son of King Saul. Jonathan’s loyalty to his friend, David, exceeded that to his own father or his own ambitions (1 Samuel 18:1-4, 20:14-17). So attached was David to his loyal friend that after Jonathan’s death, he wrote a song to him, a tribute filled with heart-wrenching pathos (2 Samuel 1:30-32). Theirs was a friendship closer than brotherhood.
Friendship can also have its negative aspects. Some friends can lead us into sin, as when Jonadab persuades Amnon to rape his half-sister, Tamar (2 Samuel 13:1-6). A friend can lead us astray in regard to our faith, as they sometimes did in Israel, leading others to worship false gods (Deuteronomy 13:6-11). In those days, such an act was punishable by death. Even if our friends do not lead us astray, they can provide false comfort and bad advice, as Job’s friends did, making his suffering worse and displeasing the Lord (Job 2:11-13, 6:14-27, 42:7-9). Friends can also prove false, pretending affection for their own motives and deserting us when our friendship no longer benefits them (Psalm 55:12-14; Proverbs 19:4, 6-7). Friendship can be broken down through gossip (Proverbs 16:28) or grudges (Proverbs 17:9). Friends should be chosen very carefully because, as Paul told the Corinthians, “bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
away from the bible, whenever you associate yourself with another as you call each other friend, what exactly do you really mean? Do you mean I can be a friend only by my terms? Or is it I will be your friend as long as you do this for me? Or if something comes between us we cannot resolve it and I will just delete you immediately?Or is it that when life is good is when i can be your friend?Or you know we are friends now so i can reach the goal i wish for then from then we cannot survive this relation? which is your pick?
everyday we meet people whom we make a choice of relating to them..funny how life has a sense of humor, check whenever you fall out with a friend, time heals it no matter how long...this is coz issues in life are just vanity of vanities... Question is, are you ready to let go off the vanities and include yourself in relating with others without letting issues come along to break you...I wont say am perfect coz yes I have fallen out and let issues come between my friendships without looking back...But av realized you have to rise above situations and step down to the level of making back the relationships of your friends.....So are you ready to have friends without fearing issues surrounding us?
nduta
xxx
Thursday, 8 September 2011
The value of sex for a man
I write this from a professional nutrition view,with a high essence of honesty and concern. I write this from the fact that I have seen so many relationships and marriages suffer from the reduced sexual drive in men today.This will stand as an open article for which I will coin this from a very professional and experiential point of view.
Its the time after the bachelors party and he is excited that he has kissed dating good bye and can now settle down and enjoy marriage. some few years into the marriage he feels worn out already and as the lay man says he is blank of the drive for sex.
sex by design was handcrafted by God and within the world He would like it to be enjoyed during marriage and marriage alone...This means that it should be somewhat sustainable to have a fulfilling marriage.
A look in the market today one would get the impression of exactly what the value of sex has become to many. So many remedies that surround the value of sex in a manner to improve the libido of either the men or the woman. This is a subject that is all too well known by many as a therapy that requires the consultation of a doctor or a therapist who is well versed with the sex subjects. Many of the marriages today have seen men left out of the league towards their sperm count. Let’s be very real with each other men, it is no longer a complication of the women but rather a problem that you need to address. Do not ignore it it is a crucial subject that you can reverse for better.
when men lose interest in sex it scares them more than women -- their masculinity is so linked to their sexuality that it is very threatening.Testosterone is an essential hormone found in both sexes, but it is primarily a male hormone. It is not only responsible for sexual appetite, but also improves skin and bone health. For males, testosterone drops after the age of 30. In today's Kenyan men the testosterone levels drop as early as the age of 25.
Lets face it, its no longer the fault of the woman that she does not get pregnant....as a nutritionist i would like to give a few tips on how to maintain the sexual drive from the time you get engaged through to your marriage.
To increase the level of testosterone in the body you need to improve on the intake of some foods whether a bachelor or when married.
Beans
Surprisingly, beans have got a certain capacity of zinc that improves the levels of testosterone.Unfortunately for m,en some of them do not like consuming the beans. If not you could try pumpkin seeds. Eat pumpkin seeds, the very best dietary source of wholly natural zinc. Don't consume fresh seeds obtained from hollowing out a whole pumpkin though, as aside from the fact that this is expensive and inconvenient to do, dry seeds taste far more palatable. Buy packs of dried pumpkin seeds from specialist health food stores.
Bananas
Bananas contain the bromelain enzyme, which is believed to increase libido and reverse impotence in men. Additionally, they are good sources of potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin, which increase the body's overall energy levels.
Avocado
avocados indeed contain high levels of folic acid, which helps metabolize proteins, thus giving you more energy. They also contain vitamin B6 (a nutrient that increases male hormone production) and potassium (which helps regulate a woman's thyroid gland), two elements that help increase libido in both men and women.
Eggs
Although they should be eaten sparingly,they contain vitamin B6 and B5. These help balance hormone levels and fight stress, two things that are crucial to a healthy libido. Eggs are also a symbol of fertility and rebirth. Some people will eat raw chicken eggs just prior to sex to increase libido and maximize energy levels. But all bird and fish eggs contain B6 and B5. Whenever you eat eggs always remove the yolk and eat the egg white to ensure that you lower down the levels of cholesterol.
Garlic
Yes, you might need to stock up on some extra breath mints, but it'll be worth it. Garlic contains allicin, an ingredient that increases blood flow to the sexual organs. As such, it's a highly effective herb to help increase libido. If the odor just won't work for you -- or you can't stand garlic try eating it in food.
Liver
A good source of glut-amine -- a cellular fuel for your immune system -- liver may indeed increase a slowed-down libido.
These are just some few of my thoughts of which you can feel free to comment.
Nduta
nutrition counselor
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